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How to choose your wedding theme

Wedding theme

First of all, congratulations! At this exciting time, enjoy your engagement – even if the idea of wedding planning is making your head spin. 

If you’re having trouble figuring where to start and finding it tricky to narrow things down, one of the best things you can do is pick a theme for your big day. 

How to choose a theme

The first thing you need to decide is whether you’d prefer a strong and clear theme for all to see or something subtle that just helps guide your decisions. 

My biggest piece of advice if you’re struggling to find a theme (and even if you’re not) is to choose the location of your wedding first – not necessarily the venue, but the location. 

Once you have a location, it will help dictate the theme, based on the landscape and overall feel of the area. Is it by the ocean? If so, a nautical, beach or even Hamptons theme might work well. Is it in a busy city? Perhaps it calls for a sleek and modern look. 

Your next decision when it comes to the theme is your venue. Some venues are amazing for any theme and can easily be transformed into your dream. However, others really lend themselves to particular styles and even if you like the venue, you might be trying to fit a round peg into a square hole. If you’re able to find a venue that really suits your theme, there’s a lot less work for you to do, especially in the decor department. 

If you’re stuck, I find the best way to go is simply to decide on the colour scheme you want and go from there, allowing that to guide you and essentially be your theme.  

What to avoid when selecting a theme

Whenever I ask couples what they would change about their wedding if they could do it all over again, I find the most common answer seems to be something to do with the theme. 

It’s important that you don’t choose something just because it’s popular at the time – unless, of course, you really love it and would have chosen it anyway. 

Similarly, don’t pick a theme that doesn’t represent you and your partner. If you hate going to the beach, an ocean theme would really be out of character for you. You want your guests to leave the wedding saying, “That was so them!”  

Don’t choose a theme that’s more elaborate than your budget allows. This is a big one, as it will cause lots of problems and you’ll be disappointed when you can’t make your vision a reality.

And most of all, don’t let the theme of your big day overwhelm you – allow it to assist in guiding your decisions, but don’t be completely ruled by it. It’s important to have fun and enjoy your wedding planning!

Words by Micaela Centenera, publisher and editor-in-chief of Luna + Honey